SQUARE #1: Are you maxed-out, burned-out, and freaking out?
I remember it was a Tuesday…
I had been up late writing every night. I had three keynotes to prepare, I was on my way to Pennsylvania for a two-day conference and knew I had to be back on Friday morning to lead a workshop. I was physically and mentally drained.
Looking back, it’s easy to see what happened. I had been going nonstop as a one-woman operation. I was living out of a suitcase and planning the launch of my new book. How was I ever going to get it all done?
Sitting in terminal 1, gate B-14 at Chicago O’Hare International airport, I knew something had to change. I had to recalibrate. As I stared out at my fellow travelers, breathing in and out, I knew I was maxed-out, burned-out, and freaking out.
I came back from that trip and I felt like I hit a brick wall. It was time for some self-care strategizing. First, I knew I had to sleep. Then I knew, to really slay this burn out, I had to re-prioritize my exercise routine. So, I got out my planner.
Now, you will probably agree with me that the last thing we want to do when we are tired is get some exercise. Which, ironically, is one of the TOP stress relievers. But I know too much to ignore it.
I KNOW that if I exercise:
· My mood will lift
· My perspective will shift
· My stress will drip away (along with those drops of sweat!)
In fact, getting our sexy-sweat™ on will retune our whole outlook on things and make us feel better. But what is the first thing many of us want to do when we are super stressed? We want to get on the couch and dive into a nice Netflix binge.
Now, there is nothing wrong with that. Watch that whole series, my friend.
Take a long, juicy nap. (Tune in later for my sleep blog. Sleep will be something we talk about later – it’s important too)
AND THEN!!! …take a deep breath and get your sneakers on. This is the main thing I want to focus on today because for many of us, it’s such a challenge. I talked in March about the Self Care Square ™ I’ve developed for my workshops. (If you missed that one you can read it RIGHT HERE )
Square #1 gets right to my point: LET’S GET PHYSICAL, PEOPLE!
SELF CARE SQUARE #1 : PHYSICAL WELLNESS
GO. MOVE. YOUR. BODY.
According to the American Psychological Association, exercise is like a stealth Ninja warrior. It combats depression, slays anxiety, helps assuage ADHD, and essentially assassinates stress. It does ALL THE THINGS.
I think about you, the tired one who is reading this blog. Maybe you need a bit of inspiration to lace up those sneaks. Maybe you already do, and need validation that it’s worth it. Whatever inspiration I can impart to you – know this: exercise will help you.
I challenge us all today: what strategies can you employ to get moving?
Here are 3 steps to start.
1. Make a plan. By yourself or with a friend. Put it in your calendar, throw gym clothes in a bag, get the tennis shoes out. This is over half the battle: scheduling the time in your busy life.
2. Tell someone what you planned, out loud. “Hey family! I’ll be at the gym from 6:00 pm -7:30 pm three nights this week.” and “Hey Co-worker Jane- I’ll be walking outside for my lunch time for the rest of this week.” Accountability works.
3. Work your plan. Even if you don’t do it perfectly. Show up for your plan as much as you can. So you said you would go three times but you went once. This is a success! YOU WENT ONCE! Give yourself a hug for changing your behavior. It’s not easy.
Let’s say it again: Exercise is one of the most powerful ways to bust-up that burn-out!
Bust a move, baby!
(As usual – I LOVE hearing from you! Share with me about your exercise shifts! I’m rooting for you!)
Two words: Yerba Mate.
This South American drink is said to have the strength of coffee, the health benefits of tea, and the euphoria of chocolate, all in one beverage. Yerba mate is an herbal drink made from the leaves and twigs of the Ilex paraguariensis plant. Five years ago, I gave up my morning coffee for the stuff and I haven’t looked back.
I brew it both at home and in my hotel room when I’m traveling. It tastes a little like grass, but there’s just something about it…
Try it, and let me know what you think. CLICK HERE to learn more about Yerba Mate
SCOTLAND HERE I COME!
One final blog post before my big trip “across the pond” to Scotland for the Menopause Festival. As I happily prepare my presentation, I think of all the people I will get to meet, and all the conversations I will get to have with women from around the world. They will teach me; they will inspire me. Thinking of this, I feel so grateful for the job I get to do. Strategizing how to live better and feel better is what I live to do. What better place than the world’s ONLY menopause festival to continue these conversations? Get ready for stories and pictures from my travels to Perth! (And here I come, #flushfest!)
What are you grateful for? I encourage you to find the joy in what you do. You matter. Your work matters.
Have a great week, lovely you.